We all have that one space in our home that attracts all the clutter. It is the place where you keep everything that you know you do not want to throw away, however, you are not entirely sure where it belongs. If you are an old soul like me, you have a trunk packed full of special yet useless items – all your high school yearbooks, a letter jacket, notes from friends, trophies, etc. Occasionally the clutter outgrows our trunk and the trunk is no longer serving as an efficient storage space. This is usually when you take a Saturday morning and plunge into organization mode to try and regain control of your messy situation.
Every now and then we find ourselves in a similar position when it comes to our thoughts and emotions. Things happen in our lives that can bring up big yet indiscernible feelings. When we do not know how to make sense of them, we internally stuff them in a place where we do not have to directly deal with them and we press on. Just as our trunks can reach max capacity before overflow occurs, our bodies have the same response. The clutter of all our complex thoughts and feelings can implode and manifest through unhealthy and unhelpful responses. Some of these reactions can include but are certainly not limited to:
- Anxiety attacks
- Distressed relationships
- Binge eating/drinking
- Inability to concentrate
- Weight gain/loss
So how do you efficiently process your “internal clutter” like you would the clutter from inside your trunk?
Counseling is often associated with a common stereotype that leads people to believe that it is a place for people who have “big problems.” This label often keeps people from coming to counseling, feeling certain that counseling is not for them. Yes, counseling is absolutely a place where difficult work is being done: grief, substance abuse, suicide, etc. However, counseling can also serve as a safe space to come and process thoughts and feelings when we cannot make sense of them on our own.
Since entering into this profession, I have come to learn that often the most difficult part of counseling is simply walking through the front door. This is something that I attribute to Satan and his many lies and efforts to keep us from healing and redemption.
“The enemy comes only to steal and kill and destroy.” – John 10:10
Through trust, vulnerability, and a constructive relationship with a therapist, counseling can serve as a successful tool toward resolving problems for anyone willing to come and try. Life can be difficult and it brings seasons when we need help sifting through tangled emotions.
Is your trunk at max capacity? No need to wait for the negative responses to seep into your life. Give counseling a try and allow yourself the opportunity for clarity, growth, and restoration.Interested in psychology or counseling? UMHB’s undergraduate Psychology Department offers classes that are designed to provide students with information which will promote an attitude of increased objectivity concerning the behavior, feelings, and attitudes of other people as well as themselves. Additionally, our Master of Arts in Counseling program helps students develop the skills to become a licensed professional counselor or licensed marriage and family therapist. We invite to check out our website or stop by for a visit!