Life is hard, busy, and fill in the blank with whatever word you feel best describes it for you right now. Along with whatever it is, we as students are told to, “Go make the world a better place” and “Be successful” and “Make a name for yourself.” Lately, I have been questioning the possibility of those challenges and doubting whether or not I was capable of accomplishing them. As a tired, overwhelmed, and exhausted college student, how am I supposed to make the world better and be successful?
Right about now you’re probably thinking something along the lines of, “So you’re saying to make the world a worse place, don’t be successful, and never do anything?” Not exactly. Each of these three goals has an underlying message of requiring us to do all of that by ourselves. Being successful can have this expectation of not accepting any help and doing everything on our own. Culture tells so many people that if they ask for help, they are weak. Wrong. I have chased this dream of being successful and building a platform for myself avoiding advice did not build me up. Can I tell you a little secret? It is painful. It is lonely. It is destructive.
I tried to do it on my own. I tried to chase success. The final result? Burnout. Exhaustion. Why? To start, who even knows what success is? I was defining it by getting leadership roles and “doing big things.” Was I defining my success by titles? Yes. But, I was also describing success as creating memories and going on fun adventures. In the middle of comparing what I thought was success meant, Jesus spoke through a friend with an apparent message reminding me of my brokenness and that everything is not about me.
What does it take to be successful?
It takes a village. We need to surround ourselves with people from all stages of life who are going to continuously motive and encourage us, laugh with us, teach and refine us, and those who give us opportunities to do what others have done for us. It is the role of the village to help you become the best you that you can be.
I can’t do life on my own, and neither can you. Surround yourself with people who are going to encourage and challenge you to be the best you. While you are at it, find ways to build people up and nurture others to be the best them. Get connected and build your village.UMHB’s Baptist Student Ministry is dedicated to providing ministries and opportunities that allow students to grow in Christ, give in service, and go into the world to share the love of Jesus. We invite to visit our website for more information on how to get plugged in with our BSM!